This is the first leg of the journey to loving myself. If you haven’t read already in this post, I have noticed I was not entirely happy with where my life was. It’s also never too late to take action, which is what I’m doing as I start this new chapter in my life, post-graduation.
Growing up the way I did, I was raised to love others, which is what I did. I loved others when they deserved it, but I also loved them when they didn’t. I was told that the people who wronged me didn’t know better, and I should love them anyway.
Well, no offense mom and dad, but what the hell?
Instead of growing up knowing my self worth, I grew up feeling that I need to love people when they hurt me, which isn’t cool at all. This may be the cause of a deep-rooted issue: not knowing my self worth and thinking undeserved treatment was acceptable.
Growing older, I stopped accepting that undeserved treatment. I put up a cold front and I stood up for myself. I fought every battle and put up all the fences to protect my heart. I stopped loving people who didn’t deserve it, but I also put a front up to those with the potential to hurt me. Not cool, I know.
Now that I have seen both extremes (being the figurative doormat and being as cold as ice), I realized that there is a middle, which is where our conversation for Part One begins.
With Thanksgiving here, it is the perfect time for reflection. Who I was then and who I am now is all thanks to me and the people God strategically placed in my life. The good, the bad and the ugly. Each taught me a lesson. Like in Ariana Grande’s “thank u, next” each person, doesn’t have to be an ex, taught me something about myself.
The pain, the tears, the laughter and the loss made me the strong and confident woman I am today. Most importantly, through every relationship, I learned to love myself first and foremost. While the journey to loving myself is proving to be a long one, the first part is accepting the cards I’ve been dealt and thanking God and my lucky stars for them.
My life now, compared to before, has significantly changed based on the lens I chose to now wear. Showing gratitude in all things, despite how bad, allows me to constantly remain positive. Yeah, I get upset, but I don’t let those negative feelings dwell because I know my self worth, and I know that whatever the reason may be, it’s bigger than me. The amount of effort it takes to find someone to blame constantly is ridiculous, and there is absolutely no need for it.
KNOW YOUR WORTH
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
PUT YOURSELF FIRST
Thanksgiving + turning 25 means more room for self-love and more love for the people in my life, past, present and future.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone, and give thanks always.
What are you grateful for? How do you practice self-love in your life? Leave a comment below!
Until next time,