There is so much unnecessary pressure to be with someone. You hear it from your family when they say at a wedding, “You’re next!” Happily ever afters all the time in every chick flick-rom com-action movie. Your friends are happily cuffed with their SOs. And society definitely makes you feel ~weird~ if you have never been with anyone.
Well I’m calling BS on the whole thing.
Let me preface by saying that I am so incredibly happy for all my friends who are in a fully committed relationship. That’s great! And I am happy for them and the seven other people who had Christmas engagements this past year. To me, their life is fully together enough to maintain that kind of relationship and I am here for it!
As some of you may know from following my life via Instagram or any other social media, you know that I recently graduated from University in May 2018. Shortly after, I went on a three-week adventure to Europe. Alone. Since then, I have been busy working and trying to find a full time job that I can call mine (after being an interim Special Events Coordinator – Not getting into that). Finding the balance between my own happiness and day-to-day routine post-university and post-interim coordinator can be tough. The same goes for during college busting my booty with trying to get my degree, being involved in my sorority, working two jobs, etc., etc.
As you can see, settling down with someone hasn’t really been on my to-do list. Setting up my life and my future is my main priority and has been for a while, so it’s no wonder I haven’t really clicked with anyone and that I have turned “opportunities” down. As cliché as it may sound, settling down with someone who isn’t worthwhile doesn’t fit in my five-year plan. Reaching my goals of financial stability and the ultimate happiness is.
I know it’s hard to be okay and composed with being single when cuffing season (October through March, I think) is in full bloom. The annual mid-season celebration being Valentine’s Day (thanks Hallmark, truly) rolls around and you’ve never felt lonelier. But hey, I don’t really have a reason to be upset because I don’t know what I’ve been missing, right? I’ve never had my heart broken, too. Who’s the real winner here?
Just kidding. It’s hard around these times, but it’s a lot better when I surround myself with friends.
I don’t really have a call-to-action for this post. I’m just here to share with my single ladies and gents that cuffing season will soon be over and you will still be here, bumping and grinding to the beat of your own heart and no one else’s.
Until next time,